4 things Men want Women To Know ;)
Contrary to popular belief, we women know that we give you guys a hard time but that’s only because we have high, unrealistic expectation.. lol. We sometimes fail to realize that our expectations of the men we love is way off the meter. I’ve compiled a small list of the four major things guys really want us to know, so we can stop trippin’ when things don’t go our way. 😉
Men don’t have a clue what we want or how we feel- We expect our guy to be a mind reader when we know he doesn’t have that ability. Communicating beats assuming any day. With PROPER communication, they’ll know what’s sensitive to us and what’s not. They’ll know what we’ll like and dislike. They’ll know what we can tolerate and what we cannot tolerate. Most importantly, they’ll know what we’ll expect from them. Men won’t have a clue about anything unless we tell them.
Men don’t express themselves until they are really ready– Ladies, if your guy has been mute, just give him time. He may need time to take in the one-hour venting session you just gave him. OR, maybe he need time for that unexpected question you asked him a couple of days ago to resonate with him. If he doesn’t have much to say and tells you that during that tense conversation, it’s not that he’s being uncompassionate, he just need to time to come up with the words to explain his side or express his concern without hurting your feelings.
All Men Don’t Cheat– There are men out there that are capable of being faithful to their women. They can cheat if they want, but they choose not to. Those are the ones who’ll prefer stability, loyalty, and respect in a relationship. If your man doesn’t honor those, then it’s time for a new man… 😉
Men want to feel needed– What’s the point of being in a relationship if you are “Ms. Independent”? If your man feels like he isn’t needed in the relationship, he’ll bounce. There’s nothing wrong with providing for yourself, but it is wrong when you don’t give your man a chance to provide for you. Give him the time &/or chance to “be yours” through changing your tire hahaha lame example, taking you to dinner, or simply making choices that usually involves only you. Ask for his opinion on something to show him that you value his mind. Most importantly, never stop showing him how much he means to you….even after years together… 😉
Holy words. First, when you feel that your beloved does not comprehend you, just speak. Men are simple minded people, if their woman does not tell them what she wants they will not give it to them, if she asks they will do whatever they can. Men do not read signals, I repeat we are simple people we reject the female world complexity. About men expression, note that we do dislike talking about what we are not proud of, and that includes difficult situations, we know that you women need to talk to elaborate problems, we don’t! Or we have the possibility to solve them or we shortcut and dodge them, full stop; talking about them puts us into a kind of sense inadequateness as the other person wants to remark our failure, that causes frustration and aggressivity, if we listen to you, we do it because we love you, but we would really like avoiding the thing. To other things women should understand from us: the first is that an enemy is not forever, men are very forgiving, our judges are not absolute and , our enemy of today can be our best ally tomorrow against the next foe, that’s how we reason! then our way of facing life issues is just based on “one thing at a time” concept, when the problem is big it is split into small pieces and faced one by one, when one by one means that when a man is doing something he is doing that thing, he concentrates all his efforts there, and does not think to anything else. When a man has finished his action, he rests, so mind that asking your man sitting on the sofa to stand and clean the dust on the cupboard is something that will make him angry by his own male nature! It is just a matter of different rhythm and a matter to understand each other needs, we should never pretend a omen to have our performances during the peak of activity but at the same time women should respect the need for rest.