Wanting Who You Can’t Have ;)

This person is everything you’ve wanted!

I have girlfriends and ladies that often come to me with the same LOVE problems!! I am usually right on, when it comes to guys! I know what I am doing, because I think rationally so here is my advice..

He is handsome, has a great career, loving, great sense of humor, talented, open-minded, and down-to-earth.
There’s only one thing….you can’t have him.
This is when distinguishing the difference between who we want & who we need is necessary, but some, inhibit that kind of process by relying on that  “hope factor”
It doesn’t matter if that married man says he loves you. He isn’t yours, but you still hope things change.
You think he’s scared of commitment. You think he will change his mind, when he sees how amazing you are 😉
He seems to always be too busy to spend quality time with you, but wait! You guys are not in a relationship, so he’s not obligated!… 😉
Women have tried to change these kind of guys forever, but it never works. It never works because the ladies are not being honest with themselves. It’s a bad thing to try and force love & commitment with a guy. The guys go on about their business unlike the ladies who lose hairs wondering why they haven’t called them… haha 😉
Some have known from the beginning what kind of situation these men are in, but the “hope factor” allows women to keep pursuing them. Ladies you have to utilize your intelligence in a way that will help you to understand that sometimes who we want may not be who we need. Once you realize that, a guy who you cannot have will not have the power to emotionally manipulate you. Most importantly, you have to see yourselv worthy of having more than what you settle for.

There’s nothing worse than trying to fight for attention from…..

The married one: It’s really obvious why you shouldn’t waste your time on this one. He’s already said his vows to his woman in front of their families. So, you have had an affair. In the end, something like this will never go in your own favor, because in most cases the side chick is only there as a temporary fix. With a ring & official papers, he is obligated to wifey by putting her first in everything and rightfully so. Therefore, you can’t have him. You may want him, but you don’t need him.

The punk: This one tells you & shows you all the right things, but when feelings between you both fester, he shows signs of fear by avoiding your calls and making excuses about his “broken heart”. If he really wanted to be with you, he’d prove it with consistency and genuine interest. You wanted magic in your relationship, but he misunderstood that when he disappeared. You feel like you need him, but I’m sure you don’t 😉 Move on!

The non-ambitious one: Simply put..if he has no goals in life & doesn’t care to achieve any like you do, don’t waste your time. You may want his good looks, but you don’t need his undesired outlook on life to rub off on you.

The manipulator: In this type of relationship, there could possibly be the ability of you both feeding off each other’s power trip. You both lie & charm the pants off each other, but there will come a time when you get bored.. 😉

Hopefully This cleared up things for you, if you are in a awkward situation  – because he hasn’t called you 🙂  … You will know whats up!

I want my ladies to be strong and powerfull, not weak and chasing ;)… Muaaah

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